There comes a time when we feel the call to be real
To go down the road least taken,
To step into a new path we feel called to,
To start or deepen a relationship,
To deepen into or make a career shift for more rewarding work,
To choose to express ourselves authentically,
And then we meet challenges on our path. We face questions and doubts –
Am I ready? Do I have the courage?
Is this right for me?
How do I make this happen?
Am I qualified?
What is true about change is the resistance to change.
change is hard because we are neuropsychologically hardwired to resist change. We are designed to maintain predictable patterns of being. Predictability is our survival mechanism.
In a post-modern, post-truth, and increasingly complex world in which predictability is challenged we face greater resistance in pursuing our dreams and goals. Whether that resistance is neuropsychologically baked in internally or externally driven, we often feel stuck, and unable to change in the face of these challenges. Most of us know we need support to change. We often find conventional processes designed to help change, don’t work. When we have been trying everything but feel we are still stuck, we realize we need something new: a new way of looking at change.
That is where MetaPsychotherapy comes in.
The MetaPsychotherapy process goes beyond conventional psychological theories and practice to embrace what is hidden in ourselves and situates that within the complex social, cultural, economic, and political interfaces we live in.
MetaPsychotherapy is the integration of my life’s work in helping people change. I developed this process out of my work with individuals, couples, families, and organizations. MetaPsychotherapy is the name I have given to my process of transformation through which I teach people to learn how to create sustainable, effective real change.
A therapist isn’t fair or just, or a politically correct practitioner; not an ethicist, not a logistician, not all knowing. The therapist is a practitioner of change. But change is always resisted: by the familiarity of well traveled pathways, by conviction about the way things are. A therapist is a change agent with limited options, who can only be effective if he or she can disrupt the norms that maintain well worn assumptions. To do this, the therapist needs to enter into a relationship with their client(s) which offers hope that alternative ways of being in relationship are possible and will bring benefits; diminution of pain, increase of satisfaction, and knowledge.
(Salvadore Minuchen, 2007)
. . . a process that goes beyond accepted psychotherapeutic practices and theories to look at what is hidden, unconscious beneath the surface.
Clarifies the underlying hidden reasons causing resistance to change
Supports you to take the difficult journey of letting go of what no longer serves you
Gives you skills to transform and achieve your goals and dreams
MetaPsychotherapy incorporates both depth and liberation principles along with alchemical principles of transformation into a practical process of dealing with real change in today’s complex world.
Incorporating depth psychological principles goes beyond conscious psychological states into what is unconscious. MetaPsychotherapy sees the individual within a matrix of biological, neurological, and psychological constructs.
Using liberation psychological principles, MetaPsychotherapy then situates the individual within complex intersections of social, cultural, economic, familial, and intergenerational interfaces to deepen and widen our conscious and unconscious embodied experience of being human with others.
Change is hard because we are neuropsychologically hardwired to resist change and maintain predictable patterns of being. MetaPsychotherapy draws on transformational practices that have been known across all cultures and time, rooted in alchemical transformation principles. Alchemists have long understood how to deal with resistance to change by creating tools to deal with obscure and dark matters of change: life, death, and rebirth.
Re-imagining, re-wiring, re-educating, and re-pairing connections we desire
Individual MetaPsychotherapy (IM)
I offer private consultations to help you deeply explore the issues of concern that brings you to therapy using a systemic approach through Individual Metapsychotherapy (IM). We will deal with the complex interaction between the patterns that have developed in your inner world and how that intersects with your current issues, possible past trauma(s).
Couple MetaPsychotherapy (CM)
Through Couple MetaPsychotherapy (CM) I offer private consultations to help you deeply explore the issues that brings you into therapy. It is my experience that most couple-related issues take a longer time to reach shared understanding and resolution. In the initial stage each person in a couple may feel anxiety, or distress.
Family Metapsychotherapy (FM)
Through Family MetaPsychotherapy (FM) I offer a unique process for family therapy which incorporates a variety of techniques Drawing from Bowens family therapy, Minuchins Structural Family Therapy etc I aim to help the family first understand often unconscious issues and patterns which disrupt healthy relationships within families.
Systemic Family Constellation
I offer systemic family constellation online for groups and individuals. The philosophical orientation of Family Constellations comes from an integration of existential phenomenology, psychoanalytic theory, gestalt therapy, psychodynamic therapy, family systems therapy, trauma-informed therapy, and elements of indigenous Zulu mysticism & beliefs.
Transforming Relationships Academy
In the Transforming Relationships Academy I offer an online program that includes a two-part series of online courses involving 13 modules. Part 1 Becoming Conscious aims to foreground what is unconscious, and Part 2, Consciously Transforming helps you change what you have identified needs to change.
Kink Knowledgeable Academy
Through the Kink Knowledgeable Academy I offer an online program for mental health professions that includes a two-part series of online courses involving over 18 discrete learning classes and related subjects. The Kink Knowledgeable Program is offered individually, it is not a group program.
The fee structure is built to be affordable for everyone from individuals, to whole families. *These sessions are virtual and online.
One on one sessions online to help you • Explore the issues of concern that brings you to therapy, • Explore how your- neuro—psycho – biology contributes to unhelpful emotional/mental patterns, • Explore possible past trauma(s) and family/support system.
Alternating individual and couple sessions online to help couples • Examine possible individual issues/history & current or past trauma(s) within your couple system, • Examine influences with potential intergenerational issues, • Consciously address these issues as individuals and as a couple.
Tailored online sessions for whole family to help whole family • Address patterns of conflict, • Bring to the fore issues that have been suppressed or repressed, • Collectively change these dysfunctional patterns.
Personal development program guiding individuals and couples to • become conscious of what stops them from achieving connection and belonging in their relationships, • consciously navigate how to transform.
Online Continuing Professional Development for mental health practitioners. Addressing a vacuum in the therapeutic community for professional clinical training in atypical sexualities. From the publication of “Becoming a Kink Aware Therapist”: • the first comprehensive online academy • introducing best clinical practices in an e-Learning platform.